Conflict: Blame & Guilt

Be careful who you blame!!!

Blame and Guilt

        In Urban Youth Culture most adolescence likes to blame people for things that are going on without knowing the whole story. In my independent reading novel Blood Is Thinker by Paul Langan and D.M. Blackwell, blaming someone mostly family members can hurt and feel guilt after can change a lot of things. Hakeem blamed Savon for robbing the store down the street because Savon had a lot of money, and was sneaking out of the house late at night, and wearing dark clothes. Then later down the line before Hakeem wanted to tell the family, what Savon was doing. Hakeem found out Savon was leaving late to go to a club to rap for a crewed of people and with his “boys.” Hakeem thought he did a great job so he went to go find Savon to apologies for blaming and assuming that he was robbing the store. But before that even happen Hakeem was surrounded with the wrong people at the time looking for Savon and almost got beat up until Savon saved him for that happening. After that they were walking and talking about what’s been going on until Savon got close to their house and saw lights on, as if someone was up and worried. Hakeem made him come in to the house anyways and Hakeem saved Savon from getting kicked out of the house because he spoke his mind, when he should of a long time ago. Also told Savon’s dad (which is Hakeem uncle) that Savon is a great rapper and he is not a bad person after all, then the Uncle James didn’t think Hakeem speak was good enough so everyone else spoke on the of behalf Savon. Then Savon changed and so did everyone change by treating Savon differently.

            My personal experience was smaller than this but blame someone hurt a lot of them and myself.  I blame my boyfriend for cheating on me because he was talking to a friend of ours which is a girl a little too much. But later down the line I talk to him about it and he told me there is something wrong with this person and she needs my help. So I felt so guilt for blaming him and hating her, I texted her talking about what I did and I know it was wrong.

            If you are having this problem, talk to whoever you are blaming and see if things are going the way you thought before it gets to far before you or that person you are blaming get hurt. Also do what Hakeem did by spying but make sure it safe before you do something stupid.

Here is a quote for the book:

“In one week, a lifetime can pass.

In one day, families shatter like glass.

In one hour, time still moves too fast.

In one second, we make choices that last.”

Fighting With Family

                                                                                                                                                              

Fighting With Family

          

Fighting doesn't just hurt you!

            Fighting with family members is a big conflict that affects a lot of people, but mostly teens in the urban youth culture. I have many personal examples with fighting because when I was younger my brothers used to fight over the most ridiculous things or things they could have handled by talking. I also had to deal with my parents arguing, and it came to the point that my parents had to split up from each other. Fighting has affected my life, but if I can be strong enough to handle it, I know you can too!

            In my independent reading novel, fighting was a little problem but, it’s affecting the characters in the book called Blood Is Thinker by Paul Langan and D.M. Blackwell. The conflict dealing with the main character, Hakeem and his cousin name Savon. Hakeem found some money of Savon’s and he wonder, how did Savon get all thing money? Hakeem knew there was a robbery the day after. So, Hakeem thought to ask Savon about this than go tell someone knowing he doesn’t know the whole story. Then when Hakeem asked and Savon denied everything. Hakeem is disgusted of Savon attitude ever since he moved there. Hakeem pushed Savon and that caused a fight. So now they can’t even look or speak to each other. Remember fighting is not the answer to anything.

            If you are having similar problems here is some advice: stay positive and try to talk it out. Don’t fight with family members. Thing to yourself, your family will always love you. Don’t push them away. There is some quotes from the book that might help you realize family is the best love, you can have.

“Life is too short for fighting (page 87)

“be strong (page 88) 

Need more information

http://teenadviceblog.com/getting-along-with-siblings/

Conflict: with stealing

Stealing money, you will get caught!

Stealing

The conflict that affects teens in many ways in the urban youth culture is stealing. I don’t have personal examples on stealing but I know friends that use to do it, and once they got caught they changed fast. The second problem in Blood Is Thicker by Paul Langan and D.M. Blackwell is stealing. The main character Hakeem that works with his uncle to help out, is dealing with someone breaking into the store next door.

Hakeem was the same character dealing with moving from California (where people are nice and friends with everyone) to Detroit (where everyone hates him but his family and that doesn’t include his cousin, Savon and his neighbor who has a crush on him). In California he wasn’t used to people stealing but in Detroit there are a least two break-ins a week.

Once Savon found a way to sneak out the window, he put on black clothing and a do-rag to cover his face. Hakeem blames Savon for robbing the place because, Hakeem was looking around their room and saw a stack of money in the closet. 

My opinion on this is that Savon did it because he was a nice person to his family and friends until he started hanging out with the wrong group of people. The people you hang out with can change a lot of this in your life.  So if you don’t want to be like Savon than look for a group of people that fit you. Also, ask yourself: does this person encourage me to do the right thing? Do I trust this person? Does this person give me good advice with a hard decision? 

More imformation:
http://teenadviceblog.com/school-bullies-bullying-violence/ 

Conflict: Moving for Teens

  Moving



Moving can be hard!



The conflict that affects teens in urban youth culture mostly is moving. My experience of moving was hard knowing, it was just going to a different school I thought meeting new people was going to be a terrible thing. But, it’s helping me with knowing how to view people in a sense of how people act. I know the sadness of leaving old friends behind but, I am doing better than most of my friends. In my independent reading novel, moving is the big issue so far. Hakeem which is a main character in the book called, Blood Is Thicker by Paul Langan and D.M. Blackwell, is dealing with moving from southern California to Detroit and also leaving his girlfriend and all great friends behind. He has to deal with his cousin that is more muscular than Hakeem. Besides moving and his friend, Hakeem has to deal with his dad being weak because of cancer, so he has to do jobs, and help around the house knowing his dad can’t. Also, he has to share a bed room with his mean cousin. Then after the second day living in Detroit, Hakeem started getting homesick and wished he was with his friends in California. Moving can be a big conflict in urban youth culture.

            If you find yourself in this problem, that you’re moving, then talk to your best friend about how you feel. Also, give out your information to your friends that you want to keep in touch with.  Let your friends and family encourage you. You will be fine and it might be better off. The person that had to deal with this problem from black history is James Bablwin, because he moved a lot when he was younger. But he became a famous writer.

            There are many issues with teens with moving. But most of the time it’s great for you and you’ll be fine.